Today’s dad can bring home bacon or fry it up


Time has changed the lines; they are not so definite anymore. I grew up in a time when black was pretty much black and white was white, not much room for gray.

Dad, a man of the soil, brought home the bacon — literally when we raised hogs — and mom fried it, thus the unwanted pounds for this teenage girl.

Today, dad and mom do both. Many dads are as comfortable in front of a stove and washing machine as mom is behind an executive desk or on a tractor.

The lines are fading, a metamorphosis has taken place and the family reaps the rewards.

For the male, macho may be where it is at; but for others, the gratification comes from the simple things — reading a bedtime story to a toddler, fixing a cheese sandwich for a hungry adolescent and hugging a teenager.

Today’s father is free to show his feelings when in the delivery room for the birth of a child or walking a daughter down the aisle on her wedding day. There is no shame in shedding an emotional tear; it is not a sign of weakness to open the heart and share his fears. Tenderness and gentleness are as important as strength and courage, maybe even more so.

The father of today has found his place and it isn’t always in the marketplace, but at home as a house husband caring for children while his mate is in the workplace.

It’s not been easy reaching this place, for traditions are handed down from woman to daughter, from man to son. Traditions can evolve and bring about changes that result in a stronger sense of self and greater love for those important people in your life.

On this special day, do away with the black and white and enjoy the vibrant colors that today’s father brings to your life.

Happy Father’s Day!


Joyce Ore

Joyce Ore writes delightful stories about life with a dose of humor and sprinkle of nostalgia. Her column appears Saturday in the Tribune.

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